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 Raising children with two Religons, what to do?
Fire-Eyes
Posted: Oct 5 2005, 09:58 PM
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Ok I think this is a good place for it.
Pix if you wanted it somewhere else let us know.....I am not so good at this part of the board thing...
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Merry Meet all, I am Lady Moongazer. The reason for my joining this forum, is that i am in desperate need of help, advice, and guidance. As of right now, it is October fifth. I will be getting married on the eighth! THREE DAYS!!!! That is not the issue though. I am voluntarily entering into a major life challenge. I want a family more than anything in the world; and I love the man I am about to marry with all my heart. He wants a family as much as I do. So, what is the problem you ask?........ I am Wiccan, he is Christian (Church of Christ) I don't know how we are going to be able to raise a happy healthy child without forcing one or the other's beliefs on them. I want to raise my child with an open mind and morals and whatever education they want to seek. He wants to raise them in church, instill the beliefs of his familys' faith in them from day one! I would like to just let them learn life's lessons as they grow, answer their questions honestly. When they are old enough to understand the differences in the different paths and religions in life, they can choose for themselves. ..... I am just lost and worried about how this will work out and affect our marriage. We have discussed it, but I know it will be a different story when the time actually comes to deal with this situation. So, my question for you would be, How can I make our different religions work for our marriage and raising our family? Any advice would be much appreciated! Thanks for being here for me to talk to. Brightest Blessings to all! ~Lady Moongazer~ )O(


So ....here we do on a new adventure...
How would you all work with this?
What ideas do you have?
Anyone else out there share a simalar road block?

I will post more soon...I promise...
Sabastion has a heavy therapy load today and I am only on a bit at a time. I hope tonight I will have more time to write up some ideas and refrences for you.
til then...three deep breaths and a cup of tea usualy help biggrin.gif


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Fire-Eyes
Posted: Oct 5 2005, 11:16 PM
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How inter-faith couples handle it

I fond this article on the web. There are a lot of links and ideas you may like to check it out.

here is a snidbit from the bottom

What about children?

The arrival of children is liable to increase the level of religious tension in the family.
bullet For those denominations which practice infant baptism, the couple has to decide which church to baptize the child in, or whether to baptize the child in both churches or neither.
bullet There is the additional problem of selecting Godparents. One of their responsibilities is to act as a spiritual guardian for the child. A Godparent who is not a member of the denomination in which the child is being baptized may not be acceptable to the church.
The decision of how to handle the children's religious education is best handled early - preferably before marriage. Some couples educate:
their children in both faiths.
male children in the religion of the father, and girls in their mother's faith (or vice versa).
their first born in the father's religion, the second in the mother's faith, etc.
their children in a compromise faith. Unitarian Universalist and some other congregations often have comparative religious education courses for children.
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Posted: Oct 6 2005, 07:42 PM
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First of all welcome to the board, glad that you came here. Congrates on the wedding as well.

The link that fire eyes posted, is great. It can be hard to mix beliefs at times. Your SO knows that you are wiccan and I would assume dosent have a problem with that. My ex husband dosent have a religion at this time, he was raised in the church and says he is christian. He has know problem with my religion choice and I teach my kids through life. My fiance has christian beliefs and has attend church before. He dosent have a problem with my beliefs and he also gets involoved in some of my intrested. He likes my tarots cards, he has helped me with this board and never has he said anything to our kids about religion or what they belief. He does have a bible and is interested in that. I accept that and dont have a prolem with it, but at the same time, I dont push either on our kids. I dont sit them down and tell them what religion they are. They get involved as they want to. They are exposed to my beliefs since I am a full time kitchen witch and my everyday home items are my tools. They have attened church with our family and friends who do attend. Thats is fine with me and they will learn as they grow.
Take time to just talk with your SO, and just keep the lines open for communication. I would stress about it, you 2 love each other and are aware of each others beliefs. So you just have to make room for both and you will be fine.
While this is a worry for you, try to focus on your new marriage and home smile.gif You have been blessed with all these wonderful new events.
I hope that what I had to offer has been helpful to you.
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Posted: Oct 23 2005, 10:34 PM
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Thanks for all the help and advice! I am about to go check out that link. I will sit down and talk to my hubby about this. We've discussed it before and never actually reached an agreement or compromise. It is just very important to me that my children aren't "pushed" either way. I want them to have the choice to make on their own when they are old enough to understand all the differences. I don't want to raise them with any religion. I just want them to be kids and learn life in general. I will look into this. Thanks again! )O( Blessed Be! smile.gif
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